One of the best pieces of advice I received from a working mom friend is to draft up a list of the moments or things you simply won’t miss or compromise when it comes to raising your kids – even if you are juggling career and family.
No CEO meeting, last-minute call or business trip will stand in the way. It’s my contract, my rules, my guide. In short, it’s a plan that helps me figure out when I need to take days off, leave the office early, or come in a little late. It also helps me communicate with my kids how I will manage their multiple events and parties and games.
Of course I can’t make everything. I’ve accepted that I won’t be the room mom, but I will volunteer to work at least one or two holiday parties in my kids’ classes. I don’t make all of the field trips, but I do attend every teacher conference and child well-check visit. I’m not the parent who watches my kids at their weekly practices, but I make the games. You get the point.
My other “mommy-must-be-there” moment is the first day of school. Every year, I use a vacation day so I can walk my kids to their classes, take pictures and help them ease back into the routine. And when the closing bell rings, they don’t have to trot off to daycare. I pick them up and am able to hear all about their stories of friends, and teachers and new assignments.
My boys are in elementary school, so this routine may change as they get older, but for now, the first day of school is important to all of us. It’s a “must” for me. Tomorrow, I’ll do the drop-off and drive like a crazy person to make it to the office on time, but today, I’ll enjoy the school day and take a moment to see my boys hit another milestone.
Do you have a list of “mommy-must-be-there” moments? Please share.