With a full-time career, killer commute and everyday household errands, it’s tough to squeeze in date nights with the husband. We’re trying, and I know we’re not alone given all of the comments I received on an earlier post on marriage.
Carving out that time for husband and wife is key, but I know it’s also important to connect with each of my three kids individually.
We really try to spend a lot of family time together, but as any parent knows, sometimes you can have the best conversations with your kids when you get them alone.
This week I’ve been fortunate enough to have individual moments with each of my children – largely because I took the week off from work.
My oldest son trekked along with me on a work errand and then we did lunch. My younger son and I had a nice chat as we made our way to his karate lesson. And finally, I took my youngest to her first live show for an evening with songs and dancing.
When the kids are all together, I often witness them fighting for attention or taking on particular roles. The responsible one. The tattle-tale. The comedian. The instigator. The fighter.
However, the dynamic changes dramatically when just one of the kids isn’t around. The roles shift, and usually the drama is taken down a notch.
And man, when I get 1v1 time, I can really witness their personalities at work. I can see what their thinking, what’s important in their world, what makes them tick. I can also let them know that I think they are special, and we can chat about their unique interests.
I imagine for those parents with just one child this isn’t an issue. You likely get more than enough 1v1 time.
I love that we have a big family – as my dad once told me, the more the kids, the more the love. I just recognize I need to do a better job connecting with them individually. These special dates will probably translate into some of the most precious memories.
Do you do date nights with your kids? How do you spend 1v1 moments with them?