But lately I’ve been thinking about balance in a slightly different way. As I was staring at my family calendar, I of course noticed it was full. Sports, Sunday School classes, doctor’s appointments and work obligations.
Are there ways to cut out events? Can we carve out more quiet time, free time, family time? Sometimes, and you’ll think I’m nuts, I gaze at it wondering if there is a way to squeeze in one more activity, one more event.
For as busy as we are, I often feel like I am neglecting areas of my life, or my kids’ lives.
Yes, there is work, and school. We are definitely committed to physical exercise. We attend weekly Mass, and I teach Sunday School.
The problem is, when I look a little deeper into these different areas of my life – health, career, family, spiritual activities – I want to do even more.
- I wish I had more time to stretch. God knows at the rate I’m going, it will take me an eternity to get into particular yoga poses. I HATE Pigeon!
- There are so many professional opportunities at my finger tips. I want to write and submit pieces of work, improve my photography and web skills, speak to audiences about working motherhood.
- I need to plan more trips for the family, get outside to play, go on date nights with my husband.
- Spiritually, I’d like to devote time to meditation and prayer, read particular books, go on retreats.
And when I think about the things I want to expose my kids to – music classes, museums, art projects and more – my mind starts to explode. I don’t want to neglect any of these core areas – health, family, the arts, physical fitness, spirituality, volunteerism. How does anyone raise a well-rounded kid these days?
Work-life balance is easy. I’ve come to accept there will be days the pendulum will swing more toward work or more toward home.
Accepting that I can’t find a healthy balance in all of these other core facets of life, however, is driving me nuts. Especially when it comes to my kids, I feel like there is this finite window of time to shape them and expose them to these wonderful things in our world.
I recently came across a Huffington Post piece, Why the New York Times Can’t Have it All, and I liked how writer Samantha Ettus showed all of the pieces of life carved up into one large pie. Still, this doesn’t help me feel better about the size of the slices in my pie – even if my total pie is pretty amazing.
How do you feel about your pie?
Are certain slices smaller than you’d like?
Or are you feeling good about the way your pie is sliced?