I really don’t have any big regrets from my teenage years. I was a “good girl,” but I definitely think I could have benefited from some advice from the older, wiser me. So I’m kicking off the week with a little self-reflection and 10 things I’d tell the teenaged Kerry.
- Don’t obsess over the grades. It’s OK to fail. While you feel like your transcript must be pristine for future opportunities, things will fall into place. Screw honor’s chemistry!
- When Mom and Dad lose it on you, it’s only because they really, really do care. No joke! Parenthood is intense. There are so many worries and things to teach. Someday, you’ll get it. But now, just know they are on your side.
- You are going to love college. I know high school often feels like this caged-in place where the cool kids rule the school, but all of your hard work and ability to mix in different circles will make college a blast. Hang in there!
- Soccer isn’t everything. When you blow your knee out for the second time your senior year, realize you’ll come out OK. Yes, it wasn’t the pinnacle season you dreamed of, but you’re more than a soccer player. The knee will heal, you’ll still get to play in college and your love of the game will help you find your future husband. He’s pretty cool.
- Trust your gut. You’ve been raised with solid values – lean on them and don’t compromise yourself.
- Have fun, more fun. Sometimes you work too hard. I know it’s in your DNA, but you’ll work for the rest of your life. In these years, there is nothing holding you back – minus a curfew – so spend more time with your friends.
- There will always be “mean girls.” Sorry to tell you that doesn’t change. Sniff out the good ones, and don’t give the “mean” ones a second thought. There is a special place for girls who don’t have your back.
- Thank your lucky stars there is no social media in your day. This stuff can be a total time suck, and I can only imagine the damage it can do to young teens as they are getting comfortable in their own skin.
- That Del Taco drive-thru you’re about to cruise into with the minivan – don’t. You are going to scrape up the side of the car so bad, and no, you are not going to be able to hide it from Mom and Dad.
- You don’t know everything. You never will. As soon as you think you have something mastered or figured out, life will throw you a curveball. In fact, you might even find yourself more confused at 37. Just enjoy the ride and try to embrace change, and have a little faith that everyone will turn out OK.
Anything you would tell your younger self?