Planners have their fancy calendars and to-do lists.
Planners think about the future and carve out various scenarios.
Planners organize, focus and think.
In short, most planners have it together, but take a look inside a planner’s brain and beware.
We also tend to overanalyze, play the “what-if” game and sometimes obsess about the worst case.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my own future. Big stuff. Career stuff. Life stuff.
For so long, I’ve been in my comfortable little career cocoon, working for the same company, growing and learning, but in an environment that I’ve known for years. It’s felt safe and stable, and I’ve generally been surrounded by supportive colleagues.
But now I am approaching a fork in the road. I’m being forced to make a decision, whether I want to or not, so of course I shift into planning mode. I gather details, research and tap my network for insights. I converse with my husband, journal and pray for guidance.
All good things, but I also find myself going to that dark planning place. What if this happens? What if the kids hate me? What if the choices I make damage my career, our finances, our future?
Yes, I go to ultimate worry-mode, and it is not a healthy place to be for planners. In some ways, I’m hard-wired to think all of these situations out – good and bad – but it was recently pointed out to me that I need to strike some specific phrases from my vocabulary.
Should have …
Could have …
Because really, when I use these words, I’m not helping myself or the situation. Rather, I am worrying, or regretting, or second-guessing. Instead, I need to be present. Yes, I can still plan and research and try to come to the best decision. But I need to stop thinking I have a crystal ball that will reveal my future, or a time machine to go back and change the past.
This will likely be my biggest challenge over the next several months as I consider my own fork in the road, but I really hope some optimistic thinking will go a long way.
Are you a planner?
Do you find yourself using those not-so healthy phrases, or have you managed to escape them?
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