Marion Cotillard, Felicity Jones, Rosamund Pike and Reese Witherspoon.
Each had banner film performances in 2014. Each nominated for the coveted “Best Actress” spot for the Academy Awards. Each wore gorgeous dresses, walked the red carpet, held their breath as Matthew McConaughey opened the sealed envelope. Each politely clapped as the winner was revealed.
So close, but each star performer had to remain in her seat. Cotillard, Jones, Pike and Witherspoon were finalists, but not “the finalist.” Only Julianne Moore could make that walk to the front, accepting the one “Best Actress” award and Oscar glory for the night.
Moore obviously delivered a stunning performance in “Still Alice” and gave a wonderful acceptance speech. Yet this year, I especially found myself thinking about the other talented women, the women who had to remain in their seats.
They all would likely publicly say, “It’s just an honor to be nominated.” And perhaps they truly believe that sentiment.
Still, I imagine they all had their acceptance speeches written. They could picture themselves winning. They gave thought to who they would thank, where they would place the trophy, how they would celebrate.
When you’re that close to something you so desperately want, the loss stings. I’ve never found solace in discovering I was the No. 2.
On the athletic fields, you can train harder. In the classroom, you can study to ace the test. In the real world … well, often there is a great layer of subjectivity when it comes to landing the promotion, getting the job offer, selling your creative campaign.
You can try and try and try some more, but there will be those moments when you simply get close, but not close enough. Impressive, but not quite right. Talented, but lacking a particular quality.
Your support team will rally behind you. Tell you to be proud of your efforts. Encourage you that another time will come. Your moment is just around the corner.
So what’s a girl to do?
Grab yourself a drink. Take a moment to cry. And then pick yourself up.
It was an honor to be nominated, but I’ll be back. I have more to give, more to inspire, more to come.
I was close. I have to believe that “yes” moment is on the horizon.
Go get ‘em girls.