Each time I feature a new “her juggle” mom, I feel like I make a new friend. As you’ll read below, working mom Amanda DeSonia loves her job, her schedule and obviously her kids. As a fellow mom with three kids, I love her suggestion about connecting with her children one-on-one, and we share an obsession for chocolate + sea salt. Learn more about her juggle and leave her some comment love.
Tell us what you do for a living.
My title is Executive VP Sales at a company called Norwex. It’s a jack-of-all-trade jobs. I call myself an accidental and once reluctant party plan phenom. I teach people how to reclaim their time and clean their homes 75 percent faster with products that reduce almost all chemicals they typically use. I also am responsible for recruiting new talent, training, and coaching a sales team that includes nearly 2,000 women and a few guys!
How many kids do you have? Ages?
Three kids. Maren, 10, Violet, 7, Henry 4.
Explain your average morning.
My hubby is out the door by 6 a.m., so I do the morning routine. Lunches are packed by Daddy before he goes. Successful entrepreneurs are supposed to be master slayers of the morning, but I shine at night. All my kids have lists to follow in the morning and I fill in where needed. I drink mad amounts of coffee with water chasers before hustling everybody to the car. My son goes to Montessori at 8:45 a.m. and my girls to elementary at 9 a.m.. By 9:15 a.m. I am able to head to my office space. My job is most famously considered a work-at-home gig, but I was unable to be productive at home and it was lonely, so I opted to work in public spaces so I could network. Eventually I landed in a shared office space with other small business owners. Today, however, I am on my laptop, in bed, with a tummy-sick seven-year-old. My job lets me have tremendous flexibility because I am in charge of my schedule
How does your family keep track of schedules and activities?
A simple white board that lists just one week at a time. We are a massively under-scheduled family when it comes to our kids. My husband travels for work, and I do Norwex parties on Tuesday/Thursday nights and on Saturdays, when I choose to. I turn into a yucky Mom when running around rushed. We laugh because the media puts so much attention on over-scheduled kids and the negative effects on that, but we wonder, are our kids going to be messed up because we UNDER scheduled them? You do your best, I think that’s all two working parent families or any family can strive for. Progress over perfection.
Describe your dream schedule.
Don’t toss rotten fruit at me, but I have a dream schedule! I choose what nights and days I do Norwex parties. I cross off any day we have a family commitment. I never work Sundays or Friday nights, those are off-limit work nights for me. If I get my work done during the day, I can block off times to do whatever I please. Long lunches with girlfriends, violin lessons with my daughter, sick days with my kids when they occur. That’s probably one of the best things about my career. I have to be productive when it counts, but I am rewarded with total flexibility.
How do you use your time at night once the kids are asleep?
Sweet victory. This is when I am a rockstar. I hop in bed with my laptop and finish up a lot of tasks that didn’t get wrapped up during the day. I help my customers manage their Facebook Events for their parties, I study my team reports, I track orders, I update my blog at night two times a week. Usually I have a glass of pinot noir while doing this. I finish most nights by reading a business-related book, but lately have tried to let my brain have a break by some guilty pleasure chick-lit fiction.
What is the best thing about being a working mom? Hardest thing?
I am insanely in love with my job and I know that inspires my kids. I have learned so many hard and moving lessons since working, and all of these experiences have given me more confidence as a woman, and a mother.
The hardest thing? Asking for help. I feel programmed to be a jack-of-all-trades and do it all myself, hiring out for certain tasks has been a real challenge for me. I come from a crazy-strong work ethic blue-collar family, and I have some hang ups with money. Mainly, spending it in a way that would make me look showy or ungrateful. I have had to really make peace with the fact that trying to do everything myself is pretty selfish.
How do you relieve stress or carve out “me” time?
The extra income from my career has opened doors for us that I didn’t really imagine,but spending money on myself has always been a challenge. (See above!) I have learned to get a massage once a month. My career surrounds me with dynamic, educated, supportive women and I know who to call when I need to connect and re-fill my cup. I believe in travel, so I take a few short weekend vacations a few times a year.
I went from a self-proclaimed world class martyr four years ago to a guilt-free, “I need to take care of me too” kind of Mom. But, my job is really that fun— when I am working it almost always feels like “me” time.
Share a treasured tip you’ve received from another mom.
My own mother taught me the importance of spending one-on-one time with your kids. I have dates with each of my kids once a month, and that time has always taught me something about that child because I have been forced to slow down and focus on just them.
Last great book you’ve read:
The Girl on the Train. Read that in 24 hours while on vacation in Costa Rica! There were four other women by the pool reading the same book!
Your Working Mama Theme Song Would Be …
Never Underestimate a Girl -Vanessa Hudgens
My greatest guilty pleasure:
A Netflix series marathon. Chocolate+Sea Salt. A great bottle (I mean glass) of wine.
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