Take a look at working mom Julie Borm’s adorable picture and you can see is loving life, but as you’ll read below, she is also loving her career. Read more about “her juggle” and check her out on social at Everyday Happiness (blog), Facebook, Instagram and Twitter!
Tell us what you do for a living.
I’m a communications director for a healthcare organization. I essentially have my dream job, developing strategies and communications programs involving digital and media communicaitons, creative campaigns, content marketing and everything in-between. I love the balance of being creative and analytical in my current role and definitely would say the best part of my job is learning every day.
How many kids do you have? Ages?
I have one son Shepard, 18 months, and another little boy on the way (due February 2016).
Explain your average morning.
Our average morning is a pretty structured routine, and wouldn’t be possible without the partnership of my husband. I’m a natural morning person, so getting up at 5 a.m. happens whether I set my alarm clock or not. I take about 30 minutes to do whatever is most important that day (but all of them involve drinking my one cup of coffee!). It could be folding laundry, paying bills, blogging, or online shopping (Amazon makes this multi-tasking momma so happy!) Then, I hop in the shower around 5:45 a.m. to get ready in about 30 minutes. Shepard wakes up around 6:15 a.m. and I get him up and dressed for the day. Then, I plop him in the bed to wake up my husband who takes over from there. I’m out of the door by 6:45 a.m., and then our nanny comes over around 7 a.m. so my husband can get ready for work.
Give us a glimpse into your daily “juggle.” Do you work in an office or at home? Do you connect with your kids throughout the day?
I work in a corporate office, managing a team that is a part of an almost 40-person in-house marketing team. It’s very busy and constantly changing, which I love. What I appreciate about my company is the ability to have a schedule that works for me, so while I’m one of the first people to come in around 7:30 a.m., I also leave 99 percent of the time on the dot at 4:30 p.m. My co-workers are used to this by now, and are respectful in scheduling meetings before that time. I also don’t mind doing a conference call on my 30-minute drive. Then, I call 5-7:30 p.m. my “dark” hours. Most times I forget to take my phone out of my work bag and soak up as much time as I can with my son. I like to plan actual activities at night if I can so we aren’t just at home with him watching me fold laundry (but that happens sometimes too!). He’s an active boy, so he loves being outside swimming, playing at a playground or going for walks with our dog. Clint usually gets home between 6 p.m. and 6:30 p.m. and then we get one hour all together which is when we normally eat dinner.
About once a month I try to do a lunch with our nanny and Shep, or attend one of his activities with her. It helps me feel more plugged in to his daily life – I definitely have moments when I feel sad about not being part of the everyday routine. She also sends us updates throughout the day and tells us what he’s been up to with pictures. That helps me feel connected to him throughout the day even when I can’t be there.
How does your family keep track of schedules and activities?
We have our master notebook, which sits on top of a big desk calendar in our kitchen. It’s an eyesore but it’s helpful. Travel or night-time events go on the big calendar, and the notebook is where our nanny keeps notes about Shep’s eating, sleeping and other activities.
Describe your dream schedule?
My dream schedule would be no schedule. Sometimes I feel like our lives are scheduled to death that we miss out on the joys that spontaneity can give you. But it’s a trade-off. I also love how our schedules let us get as much as we can out of our days. It’s about balance, so on the weekends, I am starting to say “no” to more and more, and feel OK about it.
How do you use your time at night once the kids are asleep?
Once the kids are asleep, I try to slip in about 30 minutes to tidy our house. And sometimes I’ll even watch a timer. After the time is up, it’s the best it’s going to get. Then, my husband and I spend that hour or two together, sometimes watching terrible TV, other times catching up on work e-mails. Regardless, we sit side-by-side and catch-up from our day.
What is the best thing about being a working mom? Hardest thing?
I think the best thing about being a working mom is feeling like a partner with my husband. He works really hard too, and I feel like because I’m in it with him, we’re really partners. We rely upon each other to provide support on those crazy days, and to cheer each other on when we reach major accomplishments.
The hardest part of being a working mom is when work travel comes up. The days that we have that are “normal” are great, I feel balanced on those days. When I have to travel for work and miss out on Shep waking up and tucking him in bed, I miss him like crazy and Facetime can’t help with that.
How do you relieve stress or carve out “me” time?
I carve out “me” time mostly through taking care of myself and my appearance. It could sound shallow, but I believe if you are taking pride in your appearance, both for yourself and your spouse, you feel better. You’re happier. So most of my “me” time is working out, running, or keeping up with getting regular haircuts and highlights.
My husband and I also love to travel, and we’ve taken one big vacation every year, and this year we kept it up without our son. We went to Paris and London, and we missed Shep like crazy, but the memories we made together were incredible, and I’m already looking forward to our next trip together. Traveling together helps us stay connected, whether it’s planning, anticipating and actually being on the trip together and experiencing something new.
Share a treasured tip you’ve received from another mom.
My mom has shown me (whether she knows it or not), that there’s never a right answer or path. That life brings the unexpected, and sometimes you just have to roll with it. She’s shown me that success can look like a lot of different things, but as long as you are moving forward, you’re on the right path.
Last great book you’ve read:
Girl Boss by Sophia Amoruso. She’s funny and so smart. She makes you realize excuses are not an option.
Your Working Mama Theme Song Would Be …
I may be the only mom who hasn’t seen Frozen, but I’ve heard the song. “Let it go … Let it go … “
My greatest guilty pleasure:
Coffee, online shopping, bagels. Many of these happen daily.